Written by Laura Hinkes Piuca, MSW, LCSW
In the aftermath of the shootings at Sandy Hook School, parents may be concerned about what they should be doing to help their children cope and make sense of this tragedy. Parents can help by listening to their fears and reassuring them that they are safe.
Find out what your children already know about the event.
Allow children to express their feelings and fears but don’t force the discussion.
Keep explanations simple and age appropriate. Younger children may lack the language skills to fully express their feelings but can express themselves through drawings and play activity.
Limit exposure to news coverage of the event.
Reassure your children that they are safe. Explain that you and the adults in their life do everything they can to keep them safe. Review their school’s safety procedure with them and let them know that you have confidence in their school’s ability to protect them. Reassure them that these events are not a frequent occurrence.
Help children gain a sense of control. Doing something to help others may help them feel more empowered. For example, participating in a prayer vigil for the victims or any event that assists people in need reminds them that most people are good and care for others.
Maintain a normal routine. Having a regular schedule and consistency is reassuring to children.
Most children are resilient and will manage this without significant problems. Parents should stay alert to any signs of continued distress such as nightmares, sleeplessness, excessive worrying or refusal to go to school. In those cases parents should seek advice from a mental health professional.
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